Becoming the Private Property of a Professional Dominant

I have a feeling that I will immediately regret this post once it goes live. As hard as I try to keep my personal and professional proclivities separate, especially in a wide scale forum like this, sometimes I just can’t help myself. My work and I are often one in the same, especially in a business where your commodity is yourself!

So, I received an email the other day from a gentle young man who wondered if I ever find some of my clients to be ‘personal slave’ worthy. His words, not mine!

It was *almost* charming in the way he asked, clearly hoping that without having met me, he and I might one day have this glorious future as a proud Mistress and her obedient pet. Charming, but not something I could answer to someone I’ve never met. The question though, is a good one!

Do I ever take my clients on to be personal slaves?

First, before I get carried away, let me just knock out that term….I loathe the term slave when used too casually.

The idea of slavery is most often a complete fantasy. When compared to someone who truly subscribes to the lifestyle, the flippant use of the word tarnishes the image of that rare someone who really wants to be 100% subject to the whims of another.  When I do assign terms, I don’t do so lightly. Now, the endearment of personal submissive or personal pet – yes! But I get what he meant in his question.

Do I ever find someone so compelling, so fit to match my needs as a Top, that I allow them to become more than an afternoon guest in my dungeon?

At the risk of outing myself, yes, yes I do.  It does NOT happen often, but it has happened.

There comes a certain point in a ladies career where most of her business is made up of  regular visitors. Naturally, when you see the same faces week after week, you can’t help but take things a bit more personally than if it were a rotation of strangers. Their needs start to fluctuate with mine, scenes become a real give and take of fantasy ideas and my personal influence becomes more and more substantial in their everyday lives. Now, this isn’t the case with EVERY regular visitor, especially since many aren’t submissive at all or they like to keep their kink as just a separate fraction of their lives….but it still gets to be more personal.

There’s a part of me as a lifestyle Mistress that causes me to see potential in a particular relationship and I want to see what comes of it. Fortunately, I do have the safety in keeping this on a professional level (as in we will always arrange time by scheduled date, there will always be a tribute and you will always have complete confidentiality) not just for my privacy but for that of my client as well. I almost never broach the subject…but sometimes, it just sort of happens. (right, glory holes?)

In short, my meek emailer, I do see budding relationships with many a guest, but where those relationships go is the direct result of a long term interaction…it has never happened because someone simply asked.

A Peek Into ‘The Summoning Room’

Thanks to the help of my new wide angle lens, I’ve finally been able to capture a single photo that covers nearly a full room in one shot! Perhaps it’s not the best picture, but I’m just getting around to figuring out how to use my (now a year old) camera. Man…. is the shutter speed S-L-O-W!!!!! A simple fix, I’m sure, but I’m dragging my heels reading the handy 82 page booklet.  82 pages…realllllly?

Anyhow, not too bad for a really large dark room!

The Summoning Room

 

Most photo inquiries used to be for pictures of my feet or something more vulgar (ha!), but now I seem to get a LOT asking just to see my dungeon itself.  I think guys are just just now getting hip to the fact that not every woman who advertises has a fully equipped space at her fingertips. These aren’t cheap or easy to come by afterall!

Admittedly, there are still two other spaces to my studio; a medical room and domestic lounge, but I may save those pics for a rainy day. Though, yesterday I saw someone purchased a large oriental rug I had listed on my Amazon wish list. Maybe, just maybe I’ll share a photo once I lay it out in my lounge. How would I be able to resist?

 

Now, let’s hope you all don’t realize I’m scrambling for content today….

 

 

You Asked: Prepping for Pegging!

Dear Victoria,

I came across your website and noticed you offer pegging and plugging. I started escorting back in February and a few guys have asked me if I could give them fetish play, especially strap on. I’m keen to try it out, but I don’t know how to handle the mess! Is there any way around that or am I taking a gamble each time I say yes?

Respectfully,

XXXXX

 

 

Dear XXXXX,

 

I admit, I feel it’s rude to copy your email without permission, but this is a good question – a damn good one and after many years, I’m going to bite the bullet and get a little graphic with you for the sake of education.

 

So, first of all my new lady friend, congratulations on your decision to give this a go! I assume you’ll be reading up on proper tips and techniques, as well as various sanitation practices so you’re well versed on the how to’s as well as how to not make a mess! Perhaps that’ll be my next post, but either way, please, PLEASE educate yourself and use more than one resource to do so! Also, don’t hesitate to practice heavily on anyone in your personal life or a non-paying client. Practice makes perfect you know!

Keeping clean and preparing for anal penetration does take a bit of time and patience. If someone is wanting a strap on, you must make it clear to them WELL IN ADVANCE that they’re going to need to take a few steps beyond a shower and a movement. Anyone who says “Oh yes, I’ve prepared, I showered an hour ago” is NOT ready for deep, invasive penetration. They’re just not – no matter how thorough the shower might have been.

 

My favorite method of prep is an enema several hours ahead of time. You can buy a disposable Fleet brand enema for $2 at any drug store. These do contain saline so if your visitor is concerned with using chemicals, tell him or her that they can dump out the fluid and fill the container with water before moving forward.

You can also have them buy one of those fancy schamcy at home enema kits ($10-$30 pic below) but they might be a little intimidating or inconvenient for a first timer. Try to steer them towards the easier option at first with the Fleet style until they’ve done this at least once.

 

 

Timing is everything you know, so have them do this AT LEAST 2 hours prior to coming over. If you hear nothing else I’m saying to you, register that last statement. At least 2 hours – I’m serious!!!! As someone who’s been on the wrong end of a not-fully-expelled-enema, I can attest that you NEVER want to have them do this right before or during the session. Once the enema water hits body temperature it can be very hard to tell if you’ve gotten it all out of your system and you don’t want any leakage to occur once you get going. Time is the only thing to ensure proper expulsion has happened.

 

I hear there are also various drinks and pills you can take, but again, that will only get the system flushed – not cleansed and your visitor may find themselves in the awkward position of trying to stay near to a bathroom, for who knows how long, as the various pills/drinks begin to work.

 

Enemas will always win in my book: they’re safe, reliable, cheap and easy.

 

Now, let me also give you a bit of uncommon advice.

Practice an assertive but gentle way to direct this information to your client. Practice saying it like a doctor: clinical, non judgmental, not at all taken back and informative. Seriously. Make sure your FIRM when conveying it so he doesn’t assume it’s optional.

Also, prepare yourself for gentle ways to say ‘no’ if you decide to offer anal and someone asks you for it on the spot without doing the necessary prep work… unless you are up for a bit of potential mess.

Lastly, imagine the worst case scenario (pulling out a dirty dildo during a scene) and mentally work through how you’ll handle the situation without embarrassing your client. If you do anal play – it WILL at some point happen. It just will – consider it an occupational hazard.

Have a plan on how you’ll gracefully dismiss yourself to the bathroom to rid yourself of the evidence before continuing on.

Lastly, have condoms, gloves, quality lube, chemical free toys and a quality strap on. Preferably something nonporous and washable.

 

Happy Pegging!

WANTED: Gyno Table w/Stirrups!

This blog has always been good to me when putting my feelers out to find odd things.

 

As simple as this item would seem to obtain, I’m having a bit of unexpected difficulty. It also doesn’t help that I have a ban from paypal for buying inappropriate materials in bulk, an apparent violation of their TOU, so I cannot make a purchase on Ebay. Yeah.

So, if any of you happen to know where I can get a gyno table, similar to the one below in any color except pink, please do let me know. If you have one to give away or just want to gift it to me, be prepared to be my first victim.

 

A few stats to make this a bit more challenging:  It MUST be in good condition! No rips, no excessive dirt, all pieces in tact. I’ll also need the stirrups to be included and it must be something that can either be delivered to me or shipped via normal carrier. I am entirely unable to pick it up myself.

Also, if it’s not a gift and I’ll be paying for it, I don’t want to spend more than $500 and delivery must be less than $100.

So, my google-fu friends, please accept this challenge and forward anything you find that would fit the above criteria my way!

 

Email: victoria.rage@yahoo.com

 

My Salute To Kami Tora!

If you don’t know who Kami Tora is, you honestly should spend a few minutes taking a peek at his work. A lovely mix of vulgar and whimsical, his art features and anything depicting dominant women with massive strap ons/phalluses.

I’ve never been a particular fan of hentai, but I am extremely fond of various fem dom work! Here’s just a little example.

Full Site Here: http://kamitora.org/posts/category/femdom/

 

The other day, I received a package, sent to me by my personal slave ‘glory holes’. Inside was a massive, no ABSOLUTELY MASSIVE, silicone dildo. It has the girth of a diet coke can and measures about a foot long. Oh, and it weighs 2.8 pounds. It’s jaw dropping (isn’t it glory holes?) Actually, when I presented it to my little slut, he was speechless and instinctively, his mouth fell open as he took in its full visual mass.

 

Of course, realizing this toy pretty much fits right in alongside Kami Tora’s normal imagery, I decided to snap my own photo as a personal salute!

 

 

Happy Thursday Everyone!

 

My Review Policy

Friends and Fetishists,

This blog is going to serve as a marking for my reference policy within the hobby. I know it’s not sexy, but it’s important and will be an active link on my website.

 

As always, I’m happy to serve as your gleaming endorsement if we’ve seen each other within the last 12 months. There are just a few little adjustments I will be making to better ensure your privacy and security.

First and foremost, please feel 100% free to use me as a reference as often as you’d like. Really, I mean that. Even if it’s been 20 times and I haven’t sessioned with you in months – go right ahead. This system is what keeps us as safe as possible and I’m here to do my part. Don’t worry one bit about ‘inconveniencing’ me, I have a smart phone I check obsessively so all responses to both you and the other provider will be prompt!

The one major change I’m implementing is that without your permission, I will not respond to random requests for verification. I don’t need a sweeping email from you, I don’t need a 15 minute phone call of justification, just a simple smoke signal to alert me as to WHO will be reaching out on your behalf. Really, a simple one liner email saying “Giselle from Backpage” will be trying to confirm me with you here soon. That’s all I require and that is just to make sure I’m only being reached by people you approve of.

Now, I really must insist that this extra little step not be looked on as a hassle. Many visitors do this whole kink thing on the side and I’m most often contact by escorts or other ladies not in my peer group that I’m unfamiliar with. I simply need to make sure my acknowledgment of our time together and positive confirmation go to the right people. If this whole thing only serves to save one playmate from the prying eyes of a nosy partner posing as a provider, it’s been worth the trouble. (and yes, that’s happened!)

One last note of caution to leave you with: Never, and I do mean NEVER, send my ‘thank you’ notes to a provider to serve as a reference. Not only will I see that as a massive violation of trust, but the inquiring provider likely will as well. Emails I write to you are for YOUR eyes only, sharing them with anyone else puts both of us at risk.

Now, off you go – the sun is shining, the day is beautiful – poon on!

 

 

 

 

Phone calls and texts reach me fastest, emails take about an hour to respond to.

Update: No More Grandfathered Rates!

Alright boys, just your attention for a quick moment…

A month back, I made a post that I will be grandfathering previous rates to all regulars who have seen me at least 3 times within the last year. At the time, that sounded like a wonderful, minimally invasive way to pick up the slack between my costs and my income. Providing you a big dungeon full of the finest gear doesn’t come cheap, you know!

Lo and behold, my accountant pointed out that nearly 90% of the people I entertain fit into that category so if I’m looking for a little balance, that isn’t the solution.

So,  from today forward, my rate will be set at $220 for the first hour for EVERYONE without exception. If this cause caused confusion or inconvenience, I apologize. I sincerely value the visits from my returning friends enormously and I hope that’s still understood despite this minor change. 

Now, consider yourselves updated!!!

 

 

 

 

 

….Stay tuned for a sexy blog of me with a massive dildo!!!